In the lives of many teens across the globe, there is pain, suffering, and depression. For some, it’s much less than others, but for some, it can cause them to self injure. Those who self injure are commonly referred to as “Emo.” To self injure, many teens use items such as knives, razors, and other sharp objects to cut their skin and cause themselves bloodshed. Many teens who haven’t gone through self injury commonly ask why anyone would ever do such a thing. A good amount of people who haven’t self injured also make fun of those who do. But why might someone do such a thing?
From personal expierience, I can tell you I never though I would be one to do it. Never once did it cross my mind. However, in the lives of many teens, there can be a great deal of stress with everything going on around them. Whether it’s family problems, a break-up, losing someone very close to them, or just seemingly struggling to get through day-to-day, it’s something that teens turn to in order to get out their anger, or try to make themselves feel better. Many people wonder how taking a blade to your skin could make someone feel better. For many teens, getting help for their problems isn’t easy, especially if they lack self-esteem or someone to talk to. For this reason, they turn to cutting. Through my own life, I have made the choice to take a razor to myself. When I look back on it now, I realize it was one of the worst choices I have ever made in my whole life. Cutting for some is just scratching the surface of the skin, for others it can mean deep cuts, gashes, or lacerations of anywhere on the body. No, people who self injure don’t only cut their wrists like the common sterotype shows. Cutting can occur anywhere on the body, and if one is not careful, it can result in major problems. These problems include blood loss, which can be deadly, scars, and one of the worst problems I have encountered with it, the risk of others seeing the cuts and possibly making fun of what can be a huge problem in your life. Also, when other laugh at it, it commonly can cause the person to only go at themselves more. It’s not a laughing matter, and it’s very important for those who don’t understand self injury to learn. It’s also very important to know, that the affects of self injury can be life altering.
If you currently self injure:
*First, ask yourself, “Why do I cut?” In other words, identify your problem.
*Think about what you are doing, and how you are doing it. Though it can feel good to get your anger out with cutting, it is very important to ask yourself, “How is this going to help me at all?” For some, that is a very tough question to answer, even though it has a very easy answer. It can also be one that many completely ignore, simply because they are in such a terrible time in their lives that has caused them to become addicted to cutting themselves.
*Discover the answer to the quesiton in the statement above. That answer to that question is that cutting will not help you in any way, shape, or form. It may feel like it helps, but if you think about it, your problems are still there. No matter how much and how hard ou cut yourself, none of those problems are just going to fall away. This concept is very difficult to understand for many, and it may take deep thought to get it through your mind properly.
*Talk to someone! It doesn’t always have to be a professional either. In fact, most people are more comfortable talking about their problems and self injury habits with a very close friend than a parent or professional. If you choose this, be very sure you have a strong enough relationship with the person that they will understand you and be able to talk to you without the risk of hurting that relationship. If you don’t feel this is possible, it’s also a very good idea to tell a parent or professional, or even call a self injury hotline. Whatever it takes, get your feelings out without hurting yourself.
*Think of other things you can do other than cutting. I highly recommend this list.
*Avoid things that can cause you to cut. This includes listening to depressing music, watching scary movies, or letting your mind think about it. I personally find that simply hanging out with friends is a great way to get your mind off of cutting and the problems that have caused you to do it.
My personal thoughts and story
First of all, I believe that it is very important to understand that if you cut, you are not the only one. Hundreds of thousands, if not millions of teens go through their own problems.
For me, it started out small. After a few small mishaps, I began to think that I couldn’t do anything right. I started out by just making as many small cuts as I could on my upper arms and shoulders. In the next few days, I continued to do this same thing. Everything in my life was seemingly faling apart. My father was living away from our family for his job, I constanly had problems with my mother and brother, and I was really running out of things an people to hang on to. I was struggling with school, failing several classes. I was constantly made fun of for things. Then a few days later, the one person I always turned to, my girlfriend, broke up with me. This girl was more than just a girlfriend for me. She was my best friend. She broke up with me, because she discovered the cutting to my arms and shoulders, which at that point had become much more extensive then it originally was. So, how do you think I dealt with this? I took a razor, and simply let all of my emotions out. Without detail, my entire stomach, chest, and upper legs were covered in blood by the time I was finished with myself. Without a doubt it was the most painful thing I’ve ever gone through. I continued to do this for the next few days. I realized that my life was at the lowest point ever. A few days later, a few people saw what I had done to myself. I had not intended them to see, but by making the mistake of wiping sweat of my face with my shirt, a few people saw. When they asked me about it, I obviously lied about what had happened and changed the subject. Then, something very odd happened. One person who had seen what I had done to myself instant messaged me one day. I knew who she was, but was hardly friends with her despite the fact that she sat right next to me in a class. For the next few days, I just told her absoultely everything I had been feeling. As time went on, I realized something. By telling this new friend my problems and listening to what she had to say, I forgot about cutting. If I ever had a problem or did think I was going to, I just told her and she really helped me each time. From that day foward until now, I have only self injured twice, and I quickly stopped both times after starting, and went to her for help again. After forgetting about cutting, my grades improved, along with my daily mood and outlook. I aced all my finals, something I didn’t think was possible. With just telling someone, I was able to pull myself from rock bottom, up to being the person I am today. And even to today, that girl who assisted me is now one of, if not the best friend I’ve got, and I’m blessed to have her, along with all my other friends and family.
If you feel you’ve got nothing left, don’t lose hope. You might think it’s crap when someone tells you things will improve, but they will. I’ll be the first one to tell you, I didn’t think they could improve. But I was surprised by what ended up happening. From someone who has first hand expierience with self injury, I can safely say this next sentence. Don’t do it. It’s not worth it, and it won’t help anything, no matter what you think. Do whatever it takes to make sure you don’t do it, because it can absolutely ruin your life. I was fortunate enough to quit, but some teens aren’t, and it affects some their whole lives, and kills many others.